Unveiling the 'seven-year syndrome': Why relationships struggle after seven years, according to psychologists

Robert Taibbi was interviewed by "Psychology Today" magazine. It was in this publication that he approached the subject which has been mystifying his peers for a while.

Although there isn't a definitive answer to why this seven-year cycle seems to be prevalent, the psychotherapist notes an important observation.

"When you initially fall in love, you are seeking something significant in your life. An escape from parents, stability, a child, or just the feeling of importance or being cared for. It might not have been spoken about directly, but the other person provided that. Subconsciously, you create a contract: I will give you what you need the most, and you will do the same for me," says Robert Taibbi.

In the early years of a relationship, we typically establish a pattern or routine with our partner. This routine offers a sense of security. However, after a few years, this stability is disrupted by anxiety. One or both partners may find the present state of affairs no longer satisfying. But why does this occur after a specific duration?

Robert Taibbi believes the number seven carries significance. He suggests that it approximately represents the duration of one developmental cycle in an adult's life. After this period, our needs evolve. Not all couples can navigate this phase cohesively. Following the seventh year, usually come two or three years shadowed with anxiety, as we prepare for the next chapter of life.

Taibbi asserts that this crisis can't be avoided in a relationship. However, overcoming it doesn't necessarily mean the relationship has to end.